Why vs. How and why solution focussed hypnotherapy is the better option for rapid change.
When many clients come to me they have already seen various psychologists, psychiatrists and various kinds of psychotherapists. After months and even years of weekly sessions with these types of practitioners, I often get the question: “Why am I still experiencing this problem in my life and how can a hypnotherapist help when they are not able to? ”
“Why” is not the question; it is actually the problem. While it is useful to know what the conditions were that might have lead to certain present situations and challenges, more often then not it leads to “analysis paralysis” or even “re-traumatisation” of the client. It is NEVER helpful to go over and over the memories and problems because that inevitably focuses all the attention on one thing: the problem. This creates a loop of a problem state that feeds back into the same negative state, session after session.
Most psychotherapy (and there are at least 400+ different schools) can be divided into two kinds: ones that focus on the problem and the ones that focus on the solution. A really good hypnotherapist or NLP practitioner is focussed on deleting the word “why” from your vocabulary and replacing it with “how”: How can I move on with my life? What are the things I can be doing or removing from my life to move me forward towards where I want to be? Not stuck in digging myself deeper into the problem state.
It can be good business for a therapist. Sigmund Freud famously required up to 1600 sessions for a positive therapeutic outcome. That is years and years in therapy and many (if not most) of his clients were not actually helped in the way we might think. Freud discarded hypnosis for his technique of “free association” and in my opinion his business was really helped by doing this, but not his clients.
So why might one go for hypnotherapy? We know that human behaviour and action is driven by emotion not reason. All the insights into why something is the way it is will never allow you to move forward unless you can engage the non-conscious, emotional part of yourself.
If you have a fear of flying for example, you know your hands begin to sweat and your heart races when you go to the airport, but you know you cannot consciously create that response at will and therefore cannot change it . That entire mechanism does not work by reason and cannot be helped by just “thinking different”. But with hypnotherapy (often while in a relaxed and focussed inner state) you can engage those parts of yourself that create and maintain the problem, immediately allowing the conditions for the solution to naturally arise.
A good hypnotherapist is also often not stuck on a particular model of therapy and is trained in a wide variety of systems and modalities. This allows them to tailor the treatment to the particular clients needs and situation.
So how fast does Rapid Change take? For some, the change is instant. The moment you can actually see and feel yourself in the future having already implemented the solutions and notice the powerful difference that makes. Automatically being able to move towards that future with a powerful focus, knowing exactly how to get there and letting go of all the “why’s” that kept you stuck in the problem.