After several years participating in personal development and transformational events, certain patterns clearly began to emerge. On one hand the techniques being taught were often truly amazing (especially when it came to hypnosis and NLP) and even though people often reported what I call the BAM (Big Aha Moments!) of personal change and insight, they also often reported not being able to really take full benefit of these changes with them at the end. They felt that they were not able to carry on the buzz feeling created by these events or seminars because they found themselves back in their normal lives after having had just a peek at what would be possible for them.
Now, I believe there is amazing value in ¨peak/peek¨ experiences. The moment where you know that everything that came before led perfectly to you realising that ONE thing that made all the difference in your life. We have all had them at some point. When we feel certain that things would never be the same… we would never be the same, but somehow life creeps back in.
While training as a therapist, I came across the concept of self-efficacy: the extent or strength of one´s ability to complete tasks and reach goals. I realised that this was one of the missing pieces to the puzzle.
These experiences brought people to a deeper understanding of themselves, but seemingly only through the techniques and the teachers/facilitators. The people were most often not shown how, in fact, it was THEY themselves responsible for all changes in their experience.
Evidence shows that if someone has the realization that they can change themselves in someway, this belief increases the likelihood and possibility of this change to actually happen (Stretcher et al., 1986).
They key to this is realising HOW your thoughts create your reality experientially and this allows you to build on your successes in a way that is replicable, which means you are in true control of your life regardless of circumstances.
In my time working with therapy and coaching clients, I found that the biggest take-away for them is when the ¨penny drops¨ and they realise that it was them all along…maintaining and creating the problems and just one thought away from a perfect solution.
Learning self-hypnosis is powerful way to be able to access your Inner Mind. That part of yourself that controls belief, controls the ways that you think about yourself.
Hypnosis is a proven way of increasing self-efficacy (Barker et al., 2010). And when you realise that the fact that self-belief works as a personal experience, it becomes an extremely practical life tool.
Some people say I have attitude – maybe I do… but I think you have to. You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right there. Venus Williams
Strecher, V. J., Devellis, B. M., Becker, M. H., & Rosenstock, I. M. (1986). The Role of Self-Efficacy in Achieving Behavior Change Health. Health Education Quarterly, 74–91
Barker, J., Jones, M., & Greenlees, I. (2010). Assessing the immediate and maintained effects of hypnosis on self-efficacy and soccer wall-volley performance. Journal of Sport & Exercise Psychology, 32(2), 243–52. Retrieved from http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20479480